Loving somebody who constantly rejects us

This conversation is taken from the movie Fire Proof:

John Holt: Has she thanked you for anything you’ve done the last 20 days?

Caleb Holt: No! And you’d think after I washed the car, I’ve changed the oil, do the dishes, cleaned the house, that she would try to show me a little bit of gratitude. But she doesn’t! In fact, when I come home, she makes me like I’m – like I’m an enemy! I’m not even welcome in my own home, Dad. That is what really ticks me off! Dad, for the last three weeks, I have bent over backwards for her. I have tried to demonstrate that I still care about this relationship. I bought her flowers, which she threw away. I have taken her insults and her sarcasm, but last night was it. I made dinner for her. I did everything I could to demonstrate that I care about her, to show value for her, and she spat in my face! She does not deserve this, Dad. I’m not doing it anymore! How am I supposed to show love to somebody over and over and over who constantly rejects me?

John Holt: [touches, then leans against cross] That’s a good question.

John Holt: Son, you just asked me: how can someone show love over and over again when they’re constantly rejected? Caleb, the answer is: you can’t love her, because you can’t give her what you don’t have. I couldn’t truly love your mother until I understood what love truly was. It’s not because I get some reward out of it. I’ve now made a decision to love your mother whether she deserves it or not. Son, God loves you, even though you don’t deserve it. Even though you’ve rejected Him. Spat in His face. God sent Jesus to die on the cross for your sin, because He loves you. The cross was offensive to me, until I came to it. But when I did, Jesus Christ changed my life. That’s when I truly began to love your mom. Son, I can’t settle this for you. This is between you and the Lord. But I love you too much not to tell you the truth. Can’t you see that you need Him? Can’t you see that you need His forgiveness?

Things of the world often pull at my heart,
But, Lord, help me see the end from the start;
Open my eyes to where my life’s going,
What I will reap from all I’ve been sowing. —K. DeHaan


Engineer Fact

Hidup kita sebagai surat dari Tuhan

2 Corinthians 3

3 Are we beginning to commend ourselves again? Or do we need, like some people, letters of recommendation to you or from you? 2 You yourselves are our letter, written on our hearts, known and read by everyone. 3 You show that you are a letter from Christ, the result of our ministry, written not with ink but with the Spirit of the living God, not on tablets of stone but on tablets of human hearts.

4 Such confidence we have through Christ before God. 5 Not that we are competent in ourselves to claim anything for ourselves, but our competence comes from God. 6 He has made us competent as ministers of a new covenant —not of the letter but of the Spirit; for the letter kills, but the Spirit gives life.

Hari ini gua ke rumah duka melayat bokap dari temen gua yang baru saja meninggal beberapa hari yang lalu. Kabar ini sebenernya cukup mengejutkan karena begitu mendadak dan almarhum juga masih relatif muda.

Pas pemberian kata sambutan, anaknya yang pertama maju ke depan dan memberikan sedikit speech tentang papanya yang baru saja meninggal. Speech yang diberikan amat mengharukan. Dari perkataannya, kita bisa melihat seperti apa Papanya di mata keluarganya. Kita bisa melihat bahwa papanya itu sungguh baik dan mengasihi keluarganya.

Gua sendiri belum begitu sering ke rumah duka untuk melayat (masih bisa dihitung jari tangan atau dengan kata lain kurang dari 10). Tetapi jarang ada speech seperti itu dari pihak keluarga.

Banyak orang sukses dan kaya yang terbaring disana tetapi pada saat meninggal juga mereka tidak membawa apa apa. Pada saat anaknya berpidato, terpikir juga di pikiran. Pada saat di penguburan kita, apakah kata kata yang akan digunakan kerabat kita di rumah duka atao kuburan itu ? Apakah orang yang berkumpul disana akan membicarakan hal baik tentang kita atau apakah mereka akan kesulitan mencari hal baik kita untuk diceritakan ?

Dari situ juga, apakah mereka bisa melihat sosok seorang Kristen yang membawa nama Kristus dalam diri kita ? 2 Corinthians 3: 2 mengatakan bahwa hidup kita adalah surat dari Tuhan. Apakah pada saat kita meninggal nanti orang lain bisa melihat Kristus dalam hidup kita. Apakah mereka melihat kita sudah menjalankan apa yang menjadi misi Kristus ? Apakah kita sudah “fought the good fight, … and finished the race” ?

Gua rasa hal tersebut patut kita renungkan dalam diri kita masing masing. Apakah yang kita ingin orang katakan pada saat kita meninggal nanti.

Laura Story – Inspiring Music

We pray for blessings
We pray for peace
Comfort for family, protection while we sleep
We pray for healing, for prosperity
We pray for Your mighty hand to ease our suffering
All the while, You hear each spoken need
Yet love us way too much to give us lesser things

‘Cause what if Your blessings come through raindrops
What if Your healing comes through tears
What if a thousand sleepless nights
Are what it takes to know You’re near
What if trials of this life are Your mercies in disguise

We pray for wisdom
Your voice to hear
And we cry in anger when we cannot feel You near
We doubt Your goodness, we doubt Your love
As if every promise from Your Word is not enough
All the while, You hear each desperate plea
And long that we have faith to believe

‘Cause what if Your blessings come through raindrops
What if Your healing comes through tears
What if a thousand sleepless nights
Are what it takes to know You’re near
And what if trials of this life are Your mercies in disguise

When friends betray us
When darkness seems to win
We know that pain reminds this heart
That this is not, this is not our home
It’s not our home

‘Cause what if Your blessings come through raindrops
What if Your healing comes through tears
And what if a thousand sleepless nights
Are what it takes to know You’re near
What if my greatest disappointments
Or the aching of this life
Is the revealing of a greater thirst this world can’t satisfy
And what if trials of this life
The rain, the storms, the hardest nights
Are Your mercies in disguise

A man’s heart plans his way, but the Lord directs his steps. — Proverbs 16:9

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